How can i stand on my two feet again? marriage , culture , religion, no more music and a new family..?

im 20 years old and i recently got married. as well as getting married and moving in with my husbands family until we stabilise ourselves, im taking on board his turkish culture. i love culture and i generally have an understanding with all types of diversities considering im asian and european myself. but lately i have been having so much trouble trying to hold myself from resenting the culture from the way i feel pushed to do things, like serving tea ALL the time but they make me feel like a slave when i do it. and learning the language. i dont mind learning another language but not when i feel forced. my husband has also been changing as well , he has become a lot more aggressive with a very low temper and i cant enjoy things we used to enjoy together anymore, like listening to music due to religous reasons. i totally respect his decision to give up music.. i will not play it next to him but it was something that used to bring us together, our passion for it.. has now gone. we used to dance and sing along. things that were so close to me have been removed and so quickly im finding it hard to accept all these changes at once, especially when the changes arent done very nicely. i live on the other side of the city away from my family and friends and the person who i fell in love with is changing so quickly sometimes i dont know who he is anymore.. and everytime i hear specific music, i break down. everytime i see old photos of myself or him i cant help but cry. i dont know how to solve his anger problems and i dont know myself anymore. so quickly all my dreams have been altered and obviously that comes with marriage but i didnt think to this extent. im a full time student and sometimes i leave the house hours earlier before my classes just to go to sleep at school because im always tired and want to get out of the house. my husband is extremely nice when he is not angry and thats what keeps my sanity. i dont know what to do, i know i got myself in this situation but i dont know how much more of this i can take.. i think i need help :s i am open to advice and will appreciate all comments.. no meany comments please :(